If there is anything I learned for good over the past couple of years, it’s to stop living in the world of expectations, especially when it comes to people. I now realize how extremely dangerous it is to depend on something you cannot control in order to be happy or to finally start appreciating your life. Being stuck in such a mindset will only bring disappointment and will not let you appreciate the beauty of what you already have. With the world telling you how things should be done, experienced or even felt, sometimes it can be hard to not be caught in the snare of unrealistic goals.I’m not saying that it’s bad to establish standards in your life or to aspire to something great, I’m reflecting on how deeply wrong it feels to me to easily be impacted by something you have absolutely no control over and literally let it deprave you from all your good energy. The only things that should really upset you are the things you do. You are only responsible for how you behave. I truly believe that my actions should be what determines how good or how bad I feel about my life because myself is the only thing I can improve.
Whatever you want to achieve in your life, make sure you work for it. It’s all about the hustle. Don’t sabotage yourself and then be disappointed by how bad things turned out to be. I think that empowerment comes first from within and basically if you do nothing, you get nothing. That’s just how it is. So get up and do something you’d be proud of. I just woke up from a major phase of laziness and started thinking about who I really want to be and how I can possibly succeed in becoming that person. Life can be twisted, people come and go, but the only person who stays is you, so make sure you’re in peace with who you are and start being the best version of yourself.
When it comes to people, a great tool that can help avoid many problems related to unfulfilled expectations and thus improve your social life can be communication. Only God can read minds, so don’t expect people to know what you want if you’re not clearly saying it. This is a reminder to myself before being a piece of advice to anybody out there. Don’t be afraid of saying what you think to those you care about. However, it’s useful to keep in mind that people do not exist to live the way you want them to and that it’s OK to learn to be satisfied just by the way you chose to react to situations rather than fully rely on somebody else’s actions to feel good about yourself.